Hi, This is Charlie here. I am here, writing the first blog of My Life. Actually the topic is very interesting for everyone I think. Because for my thinking, everyone in this world can do anything to make some money. Someone gets millionaire at the age of 21 or 31 or so whereas someone even joins at a job at the age of 21 or 25 and make a comfortable life. After start earning money, we think that we can buy or make anything sometimes. But is it so?
Even if this question is asked to me I had rather answer that one thing we can never buy or make by money, and that is love. Exactly, love, most common word now a days, probably.
But tell me honestly, do you people really maintaining the fundamental needs to carry on a long living relationship? This question is for everybody, from couple like “Romeo and Juliet” on social media to single as Chris Evans, who desparetly wants to have family and kids. Well the answer is not really. Relationships can’t be made only by taking cool pictures, posting good quotes on social media and so on. It needs solitude from both the hearts. just imagine the couple who are growing old together and living a life together till death just as the movie “UP”.
Well I am here with some doings to build a long lasting relationship. Honestly a person with his/her true love can do anything, even can become avenger, lol
So here’s the words
1. Making time for each other=
Time is the key factor of everything, I mean everything. even you are alive for a limited time. If you ever feel jealous of any couple, just observe how much time they are giving to each other or if you are in a relationship or so, make sure that you are giving enough time to your lifeline and you are also getting time from your loved one. research says that the factor ‘Time’ is counted as importance in love. It simply means that the more time you are providing to loved one, you are giving more importance to him/her and as same the more time the person spending or giving to you, the more important you are to that person. we often listen or see the word on facebook ‘self love’, It simply means that the person who loves only their own self, spends time with their own most. Just remember one thing “No one can ever be so busy that they can’t manage time, it depends on the importance of the person they are concerned about.”
2. A better fight reasoning system=
Well economics says that a business can never run spontaneous all the time. sometime it can gain some profits or some time it can face loss, and sometime it can be dissolve or can transform into a new one. This rule is also applicable for our life too. Not everyday of our life can be romantic as movie “Titanic”.
some arguments and fights can take your day too. Now a days, anyone can’t handle arguments in a proper way, because people put their ego first on the arguments and ended up destroying relationships. well ego is not everything to build life. if you even want a relationship, no matter who you are just put your ego away before stepping into it.
before involving in a fighting, try to understand the reason you both are arguing for. This can help you both to face misunderstandings more better in future. instead of pulling hairs or shouting at each other, you both can turn on the AC and discuss about terminating the “Apple of Discord”. Well this can even make a beautiful family.
3. Be honest always =
“Honesty is the best policy” you people may listen this proverb several times. This is definitely true, there’s no substitute of honesty in anything. Always be honest to your partner and never pretend to be, Besides you have to be sure that your partner is too honest at you. Because in life nobody can lie forever, one day all of their mischiefs comes into light. And that hurts the most. Relationship is more than knowing each others body or having some kisses and hugs only, but to understand the requirements to adjust the life for making the relationship longer. the easiest way for making your relationship longer is being honest always to each other. just remember, truth has always a special place in people’s heart. If you are honest and always speaking truth, no matter how hard the truth is, you will not only create a greater impression into your partner’s mind but also will get respect for lifetime. Its better to listen “He/She is honest to me no matter what” rather than “He/She had a reason for lying” and make the relationship past.
4. A little celebration is good =
Can you show me a person in this world who don’t want to enjoy his/her life, just only one. Well never. We all even earn money to make our life more happier, right? Just imagine any couple with lots of enjoyment and fun in their life, well its pretty good. This is not 19th century, when we had no social networking sites but had restrictions for making life. Find your partner’s birthday from Facebook and make that day the best of his/her life. Research says, if human always find a reason to celebrate, it increases the flow of happy hormones (such as Serotonin, Dopamin etc), it means people who try to celebrate in any reason are more happier than normal people definitely. Apply the same thing on your relationship also. As I said before that make the birthday best, why only birthday. Sometime having a coffee date in Starbucks or having some dates together can also boost your relationship repeatedly. To my Indian readers, Indians have lots of festivals marked on their calender for an year, so don’t miss the opportunity, have a blast :-). Even sometime people can’t remember birthdays, don’t worry try to celebrate the little events such as high school graduation ceremony or the first day on job or getting your first salary or any other achievements.
And finally, if you people have enough liberty, just go for tour. This will get you more opportunities to explore each other.
5. Flirting and Complementing each other=
Before explaining this, I’d like to write about a matter. Have you ever observed that a little bit of complements can melt even a person like Thanos who’s heart is impenetrable. That’s exactly my point. Even giving complements to a person with no abilities makes him/her virtuous. This thing even works better with child psychology( which I will discuss in another blog). .
This can work in relationships too. Dear boys, the way you try to flirt with other girls in facebook or in any tuition batch, try to do the same with your own girlfriend, flirting with other girls don’t make you cool, beside it provides them a great entairtainer also. Dear girls, don’t be a boring girlfriend. Sometime kick your boyfriend’s ass for no reason. No matter what your man wears and how handsome he looks, always taunt him. Because that’s the best compliment you can give to your man.
Sometime have some cute fights with pillows like this one
6. Keep your relationship unaware of social media=
Yes, sounds odd, but definitely makes some sense. There has a quote that “Keep your love life, income and next move secret from others.” intelligent people always keep all this secrets as long as possible. Though it is a very difficult job now a days.
But the question is why, bringing relationships in front of others is definitely a matter of pride, But only for fools. Because now a days there’s no lack of enemies, they are everywhere. For instance, you declared your relationship among your friends, and then you started listening about various problems of people about your relationship, somebody will say that you are not eligible for this relationship whereas somebody will criticise about your partner. What will you do then, will you maintain your relationship or will be busy to terminate the diversion or rumors. Now a days people are mainly available for spreading rumors and do bad for others only. That’s why as long as you can keep your personal life secret from others, you will be successful in your way, even in your relationship. In my life I often observed that best friends are used to destroy beautiful relationships by spreading misunderstandings. Even Shakespeare shows us this problem in “Othello” hundreds of years ago.
Alternatively, choose people carefully to whom you can say about your relationships. For instance:- Liberal parents, elder brother/sister.
7. Both side consents and emotions are must needed=
You can’t clap by only one palm. You need both of your palms for clapping. This is also the same for relationships. If you people see movies like “A Walk to remember” or “Titanic” You Can found that Neither Mandy nor Rose was agreed to make relationships with Shane or Jack.
They observed each other, made friendship, then gradually they fall in love with each other. Even this film shows us that love can never be one sided. It needs ambidexter concent. Before making any steps, just know your partner better. And besides make sure that he/she wants you too to be your everything. The term “One sided Love” is nothing but wasting time and living..
This 7 tips are for today. Just follow this rules everyday to make a long lasting relationship. Everyone can make money and other materialistic happiness, but Love is something that can’t be count on money. And therefore living the life alone is not strength all the time, sometimes it can affect out mind more than having 30 cigarettes per day. No matter who you are, there’s always somebody waiting to hold your hand and become your family. You can even found that someone getting married to an unknown person arranged by their parents and found everlasting love. So it will depend on you that how much you invest effort in this. And don’t bring your partner’s past life into any conversation between you and he/she. Basically this can decrease the moral ov the person and they feel guilty for this lifetime. And this can even create lots of misunderstandings too. Guys, have a good life.
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